Where there is sorrow, there is holy ground.– Oscar Wilde
Grief Tending in community
It is hard to put words to the extent that the loss of a child, a pregnancy can reach. Sometimes it can feel like the world we thought we knew is unravelling after a loose thread has been pulled and snagged the whole cloth. Grief can be unreasonable, savage and wild. This page is about our approach to grief and the community events we offer.
We know that no two families experience grief the same way, every situation is different. However a common feeling can be one of loneliness and isolation, especially if support from family, friends and healthcare professionals fades over time. Grief can have a lifelong impact, with feelings resurfacing months, or years after an event, sometimes triggered by subsequent pregnancies or milestones. The Nest offers a friendly space to connect with others who have also been affected by loss.
Grief relating to baby loss can come from many different experiences, for example through:
Termination of pregnancy (for medical reasons)
Fertility treatment loss
Community & Belonging
Humans are a social species. We are born to live in connection with other people, not just for the good times, but also for the difficult ones.
We are an inclusive organisation and believe in promoting gender justice and racial justice. We are LGBTQ+ friendly and welcome all ethnicities.
We take self-care very seriously. This is not the first place to come if you are recently bereaved, or if your mental health is unstable. Please seek advice from your health care professional if you are in any doubt.
Baby Loss Café
Welcome to The Nest Baby Loss Café – a friendly safe space for chat over tea and cake.
This is a place for all people whose lives have been affected by the loss of a baby, whether that be during pregnancy, at birth or in infancy. For those who have lost recently, or historic.
This is not a therapeutic space but a friendly group to connect with others who have also been affected by baby loss. This is not the first place to come if you are recently bereaved, or if your mental health is unstable. Please seek advice from your health care professional if you are in any doubt.
The Nest essential ground rules:
*Non-judgemental – people might have different views to you and that’s ok.
*Respect – ourselves, each other and the space.
*Open hearted – trust that everyone is doing the best they can.
*You don’t have to share personal stories but you might need to be prepared to listen.
*Confidential – what’s shared in the space stays in the space
We are LGBTQ+ friendly, anti-racist and welcome all ethnicities.
Resources for Grief
Losing a baby
Loss during pregnancy
Pregnancy after loss
Women of colour and/or from diverse cultural backgrounds
Devon Based Support
THE WELL OF GRIEF
Those who will not slip beneath
the still surface on the well of grief,
turning down through its black water
to the place we cannot breathe,
will never know the source from which we drink,
the secret water, cold and clear,
nor find in the darkness glimmering,
the small round coins,
thrown by those who wished for something else.
– David Whyte